Passive or Aggressive – Which is Better?

We all struggle with healthy communication at times. The easiest way to look at it is to try to speak assertively. Sounds simple, but not always easy…for sure! The below diagram illustrates styles of interaction between people. The passive person doesn’t speak the truth, they simply stuff it to stay safe emotionally. The aggressive person doesn’t deliver the goods with love/respect. What’s the solution? The healthiest path is to always be assertive, or speaking the truth in love/respect.

The real magic comes in progressively learning new ways to be real, authentic, safe, respectful, and genuine…no matter what the issue at hand is or whom you are dealing with. Caring enough to confront is absolutely not the chicken’s way out! It definitely takes guts, faith, assurance, and at times back-up plans, or what I like to call “knowing your options.” A 2,000 year-old letter that a very wise man wrote says, “…speaking the truth in love…” (Ephesians 4:15). The passive person doesn’t speak up with the truth and the aggressive person doesn’t speak things in love, or with respect. There really is something more positive, productive and powerful.

 

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